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The Cost of Uncontrolled Anger

READ James 1:19-20

Anger is an extremely powerful emotion. It can destroy lives, tear relationships apart, and ruin a believer's witness.

The apostle Paul understood the negative potential of resentment, and he offered this advice on how to deal with it: "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you" (Ephesians 4:31-32).

When we're right in the middle of tense situations, Paul's recommendations may seem unrealistic and impractical. But unless we apply his advice, we could easily face the devastating consequences of uncontrolled rage. For example, our anger can shut down communication with others. It can also lead to a silent but very damaging type of resentment—the "passive-aggressive" person takes out his bitterness on others in subtle ways. One of the most harmful consequences of uncontrolled anger is depression. Over time, inner turmoil and unresolved conflicts will take their toll on a person's mental health.

But we have a choice. We can let our anger control us—which means we opt to suffer the consequences. Or we can release this debilitating emotion by forgiving those we feel have stirred our bitterness.

Try to identify causes of anger in your life, and bring them before the Lord. Trust that He will empower you to overcome these sources of strife. Read Ephesians 4:31-3 once more, and let the truth of God's Word strengthen you.


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  • May 31, 2013 01:44 AM


    I am married to an anger person very hard. Very good message .This has, help me to deal with this situation a very anger person my husband . I have been praying for him, to help me not to act the same way too because I too have to live with this every day and year after year. I read the bible daily this helps me. He has hurt me so much but I know God is working and has led me closer to my Lord my God. All the glory is his. Amen Great message.
  • May 28, 2013 03:08 PM


    I want to thank Dr Stanley for this lesson. It helped me to better understand my husbands anger. I recently lost him to a heart attack and cant tell you, even though, how much I miss him. There is such an emptiness in my heart.
  • May 26, 2013 07:54 PM


    I watched this sermon twice this morning on TV and yet anger got the best of me after I attended church and was caught in the presence of the unsaved quasi-family members who I don't particularly care for. It took me awhile but I just couldn't be around them in order to cool off. I now ask God to forgive me, and the loved ones who were affected by my anger to also forgive me.
  • May 26, 2013 05:35 PM


    Very good message. This message pertains to my life and situation exactly. It helps me to understand a certain man's behavior and allows me the room and knowledge to pray for his healing and his own realization of his anger. The message also gives me peace and understanding that I didn't have yesterday. Thank you so much.
  • May 26, 2013 03:59 PM


    I prayed about my anger last night (I have some serious belief issues but I did it anyway) and asked God to help me. When I woke up this afternoon, the first thing that I turned to was this sermon on Victory Over Anger. Thank you God.I prayed about my anger last night (I have some serious belief issues but I did it anyway) and asked God to help me. When I woke up this afternoon, the first thing that I turned to was this sermon on Victory Over Anger. Thank you God.
  • May 26, 2013 11:19 AM


    Im willing to forgive the person who has offended me. But how do I know if I can trust that person again. Im afraid that I will get hurt again. How can we effectively communicate without the silent treatment and without anger. I need some wisdom in this area.
  • May 26, 2013 09:05 AM


    Thank you .Anger is really a dangerous feeling I can see it flow here i my country were people are very angry yes full of hate to each other. Sometimes one can be little frightend, but not for long, God is holding everything in His hand. Myself I have always been slow to anger, and I am not bragging over that. All glory to The Father.We can overcome in Our Lord Jesus Christ Holy Name. AMEN.
  • May 28, 2012 10:05 PM


    thank you for that word! God is very capable of helping us, if we let him. God bless you and the truth you are speaking!
  • May 28, 2012 09:43 PM


    When it comes to Anger, my dealing with it in my life is to "Let Go and Let God fix it, he will and can work it out.
  • May 28, 2012 09:25 AM


    Thank you for this I pray daily for the strength to handle my mom ridicule as I take care of her, And I surely dont want to say or think anything that i will regret.
  • May 27, 2012 06:57 PM


    iit is good to remind us to handle our emotion and avoid from sin .
    thank you
    God bless
  • May 27, 2012 03:17 PM


    I have a lot of anger build up, It is true it does take a great toll on the mind and spirit.
  • May 27, 2012 03:15 PM


    Thank you for the article I want to read it often... And for this moment on ... By the grace of god Im in victory!
  • May 27, 2012 10:24 AM


    Thank you for being obedient to the Lord. We all need to be reminded of this from time to time. I was mad at the world when I was a young woman. I thank God, that he is a forgiving God. Thank you Jesus, for dying on the cross for me and all others. I would be nothing without Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior. Praise God!
  • May 27, 2012 09:16 AM


    I love the "bring it to God" part of this.
  • May 27, 2012 06:49 AM


    I find situations everyday in my life that this sermon can help me. It's so neat that whatever I have going on in my life, your daily devotionals and sermons seem to be dead on with the problem that I seem to be having at that time. THANK YOU for Everything you do bringing me closer to God and a better person.

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